Sensuality, the menopause and sex. From the outer gaze to an inner awareness.
The words "menopause" and "sex", when said together, make women approaching midlife tremble in their boots. It's the big fear, the big taboo, the big unspoken dread.
Midlife is when a woman finds herself questioning her sense of womanhood,
perhaps for the first time since her adolescence.
And unfortunately, many women perceive, as they traverse their middle years, that their attractiveness as a physical being and their very sexuality and sensuality, are under threat.
One possible reason for this is that we live in a society that seems intent on having us “disappear” as we age.
Indeed this fear of loss of libido after menopause, the belief that menopause
and sex just don’t go together, may be at the root of many women’s anxieties at
In Western society, almost all our media images of attractive women, are of
young (and ever younger) women and even girls. Since middle aged and older women simply do not appear in any of these images, our beauty and attraction is not only ignored but is positively discriminated against.
The result is that whether we are consciously aware of it or not, we are all
- women, men, young and old - gradually programmed into believing that
middle aged and aging bodies, especially the female variety, are not and cannot